Four original founding members of the Federation: Terra, Vulcan, Andor and Tellar. It's like deciding to start your American movie for Americans about America with somebody burning the Declaration of Independence and stamping the ashes into the ground, and from then on, sorry, no more revered historic founding document exists in this continuity.

Again, yes, it's a reboot, they want to show "Anything can happen! This is a completely new universe!" but still - a step too far.

Hmmm - beautiful, smart, is okay with the destruction of Vulcan - are you absolutely certain she's not an undercover Romulan agent? Try casually dropping random comments about the Tal Shiar in conversation and see how she reacts :-)